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GOALS.

8/4/2015

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Having a goal gives life meaning, purpose and direction. Without a goal, we can wander aimlessly about and feel that life is meaningless. Nothing is achieved and it becomes difficult to get out of bed to face another day of nothingness. People all over the world struggle to make sense of life. The lucky ones come to the conclusion that close personal relationships provide a purpose in life and generates many short term goals to make each day worth living. 

A goal doesn’t have to be of earth-shaking proportions; it can simply be to mow the lawn, do the shopping or go fishing. Any of these activities can give you a lift, depending on your purpose in doing it. Any activity undertaken to meet a need of someone else can give your self-esteem a boost.  People all over the world struggle to make sense of life. The lucky ones come to realise that close personal relationships is what give purpose in life and generates many short term goals to make each day worth living. 

Another reason for having a goal is that it puts you in control of your life. At school, I was often in trouble and copped lots of punishment. It was in the days when teachers freely used the strap to ‘teach us a lesson’. When the teacher tired of hitting me, I was sent to do work around the grounds, like mowing the lawns or digging the garden. That didn’t work as a punishment because I would take charge and set myself a goal. It was usually to do the work in a certain way, and do it to my standard. By doing that, I turned a punishment into something I wanted to achieve. It was a win/win because the teacher thought he had punished me and I was proud of my achievement.

We can take advantage of whatever happens to respond in a way that moves us closer to achieving the goal. When I was about 19 my boss at the time gave me two bits of advice. One was: "Focus on a goal you really want to achieve so you can see, and grab, the many opportunities life presents for moving closer to your goal”.  His second bit of advice was: "You can only freewheel downhill". By that he meant that people who want to achieve something have to be prepared to put effort into it.

We usually join a club, organisation or group because of the benefits for us but we could set a goal to find out what the needs of the club, organisation or group are, to discover what we can do for the club, organisation or group and its members. That makes it a two-way benefit and, in doing so, greatly increases our enjoyment of our time in the group.  It follows that, if we a goal to do that in every relationship and for each encounter with other people throughout the day, life has meaning, purpose and direction.

Bob Myers, author of Travelling the Road of Peace and Happiness.


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S. L. Hennessy link
9/4/2015 01:05:05 am

I try to set several goals - big and small - for myself each week. It helps me be productive.

Good luck with the 2015 A to Z Challenge!
A to Z Co-Host S. L. Hennessy
http://pensuasion.blogspot.com

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Bob Myers link
9/4/2015 06:36:02 am

Hi, S. L.
Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to comment.

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    Bob Myers owned and operated an electronics sales and service business before gaining a degree in sociology and further training in relationship counselling, conflict resolution and mediation. He worked in that field for more than thirty years, mainly with teenagers and their families. For 16 years he was the director of a non-government residential facility for teenagers. He is the author of three books on parenting as well as :
    Travelling the Road of Peace and Happiness.

    Bob is dedicated to nonviolence as a way of life; a founding member of Pace e Bene Australia (PeBA); and a PeBA nonviolence facilitator.

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