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ZONES CREATED AROUND BELIEFS AND VALUES MAY BECOME PRISONS WE CAN’T ESCAPE FROM.

30/4/2015

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When my wife and I are on holidays we sometimes visit the local cemetery to learn something of a town’s history. One cemetery that we visited in rural New South Wales was a little different. It was divided into three separately fenced zones with about a hundred feet of clear land between each zone. On reading the inscriptions, it soon became apparent that it was divided according to religion. The fences around the zones would not be to keep people in or out, so they must have been to emphasise a separation that probably reflected social problems in the town’s history.

Childhood memories came back to me of the bad feeling between Protestants and Catholics that was common in the mid 2oth century and had only fairly recently eased. There were many zones that we Catholics didn’t dare enter, such as Protestant church services. Even hymns were zoned as Protestant or Catholic and we were forbidden to sing Protestant hymns. Fortunately, most of that has now disappeared and the various Christian denominations even hold joint services.

Creating zones and erecting fences around them may be justified for protecting private property and marking out boundaries of ownership or responsibility but, in regard to beliefs and values, defensiveness is a sign of not being open to change. The harder we defend beliefs and values, the higher the fence gets, and the harder it is for us to escape from the prison we create.

We should be able to explain why we hold those beliefs and values and steadfastly hold onto them, because they guide us in making decisions in life. But all things change, and none of us is perfect, so we should be open to modifying or changing our beliefs and values when we are presented with a compelling, more plausible explanation. That doesn’t necessarily lead to changing religions; it usually results in a richer understanding, and appreciation, of religion in general; as well as creating a bigger zone, uniting more people.

Bob Myers, author of Travelling the Road of Peace and Happiness.


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Paula link
16/5/2015 08:40:40 pm

I wish I had found you on the Challenge. Your Z post is very interesting. I love to visit cemeteries as well. I am on the A to Z Road Trip. Hope to see you around

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Bob Myers link
17/5/2015 12:35:26 pm

Hi Paula, thank you for stopping by. I hope to visit you on my road trip.

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Betty link
17/5/2015 11:20:54 pm

I don't believe I made it to your blog during the A/Z challenge, but I'm making it a point to visit those who signed up for the road trip :)

I think I would have found that cemetery interesting with the division by religions.

I'm glad there is coming less division between Catholic and Protestant and that churches are coming together no matter what the denomination to worship together, etc. In our town tonight will be a Night of Worship held at the courthouse square where many local churches are participating. I think we who believe need to remember there is only one really true church with Jesus as the head :)

betty

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Bob Myers link
18/5/2015 01:34:50 pm

Hi Betty.
Thank you for dropping by and taking the time to leave a comment.

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Random Musings link
26/5/2015 04:37:49 am

Love this post! It amazes me that we still have to fight for equality in life, and now it seems even in death!
Popping by on the A to Z Road Trip
Debbie
www.myrandommusings.blogspot.com

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Bob Myers link
18/6/2015 06:43:22 am

Yes, it's sad that we must be ever watchful to protect justice.

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Entrepreneurial Goddess link
5/6/2015 05:12:59 am

Hello there.
I'd never heard of this "zone" separating before. It's interesting that instead of bringing people together, today's religions actually divide. So how are we to know which religion is right? The answer is quite simple really...true religion bases not just some, but <b>all</b> of its teachings on the Bible and not on man-made doctrines and traditions (Matthew 7:13-15, 21-23; 15:3, 6-9). Love amongst each other must also be an identifying factor (John 13:35).
Just popping over today from the Road Trip.

<a href="http://entrepreneurialgoddess.blogspot.com">Entrepreneurial Goddess</a>

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Bob Myers link
18/6/2015 06:50:26 am

I agree with what you mean but at the same time I believe all faiths hold part of the truth. Therefore, no one religion is the true religion. Unfortunately, each religion both unites, and divides, people.

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    Bob is dedicated to nonviolence as a way of life; a founding member of Pace e Bene Australia (PeBA); and a PeBA nonviolence facilitator.

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