THE FOUR STEPS TO HIGH SELF ESTEEM.
WHAT IS SELF ESTEEM?
Self-esteem is the same as self-worth or self-love. It basically refers to what value you place on yourself. High self-esteem people care about their own needs and the needs of others. Having a healthy level of self-esteem is an important safeguard against bullying and domestic violence, both of which are similar. Bullies regard low self-esteem people as easy targets and the last thing they want is for their victims to gain the level of self-esteem that can be achieved through the four steps outlined below.
Judging self-esteem is like judging anything, it depends on where you judge it from. Our culture is very competitive, and obsessed with sport and celebrities. This influence probably has you measuring your self-worth against other people in regard to status, possessions, body image, abilities and so on. Although that may seem natural, it's not the only way to judge self-worth. In fact, it's the most common reason for having low self-esteem, or for your self-esteem being on a roller coaster ride. Up one day, down the next.
How you feel about yourself as an adult is also affected by how you were treated as a young child, and how the world in general prepared you for adulthood. Every person you met and every situation you experienced as a child played a part in how you now judge yourself. You had no control over what circumstances you were born into or what social systems, beliefs and values were instilled in your brain as being 'normal.' You had no control over how you were taught to judge yourself and your performance. You probably just accepted all of those things as being normal and natural because 'that's how it is’.
So you are not to blame for the level of self-esteem you now enjoy, or endure, as an adult. All of that came to you from outside of yourself. Now you need to discover who you really are and nourish the love deep within yourself. Although self-love is affected by the actions and opinions of others, it exists separate to them. If you wait long enough, it is possible that a mix of fate and the actions of other people will help you achieve a higher level of self-esteem, but it can happen much sooner if you take control and work on it yourself.
All of the Road of Peace programs and books shown on this website follow the framework of the four steps listed below, even if they don't mention the steps by name. And the same steps apply for achieving and maintaining high self-esteem no matter what role you play in life.
WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR SELF ESTEEM.
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