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WHAT IS DYNAMIC PEACE?

5/8/2013

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We usually think of peace in terms of 'being calm and peaceful.' We may picture something tranquil. However, if that is the true meaning of peace, no human relationship can be peaceful, because conflict is inevitable in human relationships. World peace would also be impossible to achieve. As well as being unachievable, perpetual tranquility could become incredibly boring. Just imagine what life would be like without novelty; or without the unexpected and the bloopers that make The Funniest Home Videos Show so popular. A great deal of humour is based on mistakes, accidents and out of the ordinary events. Disputes between close friends can be hilarious to audiences and, with hindsight, even to the friends involved. Even constant disputes can be positive. Many wonderful friendships, and marriages, have existed between people who argue about almost everything while enjoying a strong spiritual bond.

The word dynamic means lively, vigorous, vibrant or changing. Therefore vibrant peace can include the differences, disputes and conflicts that seem to strengthen some relationships rather than cause harm. Dynamic peace allows a relationship to grow through, or because of, the existence of conflict. The difference is in how the people involved respond to the conflict and what they are centred on as they express their views. People can be very assertive in ‘robust discussions’ and still keep within the guidelines of conflict resolution. They strike a balance, without being aware of it, between their need to belong and their need to assert themselves as individuals.


In 1996 this concept inspired me to register the business name Harmony in Dispute. To me, that captures the fundamental of dynamic peace in human relationships at every level, from the interpersonal to the international. And the guidelines for establishing dynamic peace are the same at all levels too. No matter what age or position we hold in life, we are still struggling to resolve the childhood inner conflict between the need to belong and the need to assert ourselves as individuals. All adults are just grownup children who mainly learned how to resolve conflicts in their family setting and, if that early experience was negative, they may continue to resolve conflict in a negative way. However, it’s never too late to learn to transform conflict into the creative conflict that is part of dynamic peace. 


Bob Myers


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    Bob Myers owned and operated an electronics sales and service business before gaining a degree in sociology and further training in relationship counselling, conflict resolution and mediation. He worked in that field for more than thirty years, mainly with teenagers and their families. For 16 years he was the director of a non-government residential facility for teenagers. He is the author of three books on parenting as well as :
    Travelling the Road of Peace and Happiness.

    Bob is dedicated to nonviolence as a way of life; a founding member of Pace e Bene Australia (PeBA); and a PeBA nonviolence facilitator.

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